Imagine you’re at a wedding reception.   You are about to sit down, and you see a massive buffet table spread out across the back wall of the reception hall.  The buffet has everything from roast beef to lobster, from imported Spanish ham to poached salmon, from artichokes to zucchini.  You consider getting yourself some grub before you sit down, but some guy at the table says, “No, no.  Sit down.  I’ll be happy to get you something.”   So you sit. 

This dude comes back and sets a big plate of food in front of you.  You look down and it's got cottage cheese, gray coleslaw, two elderly cherry tomatoes, some kind of green quiche-looking thing, runny red Jell-O, and about half a pound of pickled okra.  Talk about an unbalanced plate.  You think, “I don’t want any of this stuff!  I wanted some of the prime rib and smoked salmon!”

So, now you have some choices.  You may:

            A. Eat or pick disgustedly at what has been selected for you.

            B.  Sit there and go hungry.

            C.  Get up and fix your own plate.

If we don’t choose, we lose.  So much of what is out there in the world is irrelevant to what we want to achieve in our lives.  Unless we have a true concept of who we are and what we want from the smorgasbord of life, someone will be only too happy to fix a plate for us.  And the plate they fix will consist of what they want us to have based on their own reasons, their whys.  We’re the only ones who can fix our plate our way. 

“You gotta fight, fight, fight for your mind, while you got the time.”    -- Ben Harper   

Each of us has the need and the power, and hears the personal imperative, to craft our own goals and to utilize our resources (time, money, networks, knowledge) to make them happen.

Life is a smorgasbord, so fix yourself a balanced plate –  and dig in!


Contributed by:  Dean Lindsay, Award Winning Speaker and Author of The Progress Challenge & Co-Author of Stepping Stones to Success   

Dean Lindsay, Sales and Leadership Speaker