Remember, you have good stuff to share. Like yourself – but never be cocky or vain. Like who you are on the inside. If you don't like yourself – Big Problem. Far too many people go around disliking themselves, focusing in on the negatives. This is a huge part of the reason why substance abuse, gambling, depression, anxiety, stress-related physical disorders, obesity, and other eating disorders are all galloping epidemics. Negative self-thoughts aren’t just self-limiting, they can kill you.
Find a way to feel good about yourself. Hang with people who
– like PBS’s Mister Rogers – “like you just the way you are.” Allow their views to rub off on you. Make yourself appealing to yourself. Say it with me: I’m OK. You’re OK.
We each have a wealth of ideas, experiences, contacts, and resources that others need. Recognize and use these strengths of yours. Develop a healthy self-concept. I do not want to go all Dr. Phil on you, but you have to go inside before you can go outside.
We need to be real careful about what we say to ourselves and believe about ourselves. Henry Ford is quoted as saying “Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you’re right.” Around the same time, Luigi Pirandello wrote a play that said the same thing: Right You Are, If You Think You Are.
Yes, I am talking about affirmations. When I realized that I was going to passionately encourage people to focus on affirmations, I admit I had nightmares of Stuart Smalley (Al Franken’s character from “Saturday Night Live”): “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.”
Affirmations just seemed so wishy-washy, so flimsy. But I dug deeper and came to realize that we use affirmations all the time.
It’s just that most of them are negative and self-limiting:
“I have a short attention span.”
“I am not good at meeting people.”
“I participate in road rage.”
Our brains are trippy and complicated and can do amazing things. But at their core our brains want one thing –To Be Right.
Whatever we continually say about ourselves and start to believe about ourselves, our brains are going to work to make it true.
It is imperative that we be careful about the things we say to ourselves because…
“Whatever you say to yourself, you’re right.”
Try using self-empowering affirmations and visualizations to create a more positive attitude about yourself.
“I believe in myself.”
“I am always interested in meeting new people.”
“Every day I make good decisions that positively affect my life.”
“This is a really good book.”
Enjoy yourself. Mingle and keep it light.
Contributed by: Dean Lindsay, Award Winning Speaker and Author of The Progress Challenge & Co-Author of Stepping Stones to Success