Most people connect the term “curb appeal” to checking out a house or building from the street.  How does it look from the street?  Is it attractive to the eye from the outside?

Personal curb appeal involves much more than how you look on the outside.  Sure, you need to look sharp when networking, but real personal curb appeal originates from within.  Before you even start networking, you must feel it is inevitable that you will meet and help people.  You must feel it is inevitable that you will continue to progress.  It simply will happen.  It is happening.  You will help other people reach their goals.  You will reach your goals.  You are progressing and you help others progress. 

People pick up on that feeling.  It’s a buzz, an aura.  It surrounds you.  It’s appealing.  It draws the right people to you. 

Be a success in your own eyes. You have to feel successful.  Not Cocky or Uppity, just good about yourself.  This creates personal curb appeal.  You can’t go to a networking event looking for success.  You have to take success with you to the event.  Success breeds success.  Success attracts success. 

It is so important to feel successful, to feel like a winner.  Feeling successful makes you attractive.  You become attractive to be around.  You ooze confidence.  You create an aura of inevitability.  You must believe you can help.  That you will help.  It is inevitable.  At its core, having personal curb appeal is knowing that you can and will be progress for the people you meet.

Sometimes you are going to have to act more positive and confident than you feel.  If you do, you will soon start to feel more positive and confident.  Change the negative perceptions about yourself and you will easily build greater trust and rapport with others.  I know this is almost impossible to pull off, but try to compete only with yourself and do not compare yourself with others.  Your overriding goal is to be the best you can be. 

Don’t let anyone (including yourself) say you can’t do it.  

As a young student, Martin Luther King, Jr., was told by a teacher that he would never be able to speak with enough passion to motivate people into taking action.

Thomas Edison was told by educators that he was too stupid to comprehend anything.

Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because he had "no good ideas."

Beethoven's music instructor once said of him, "As a composer, he is hopeless.”

A magazine editor once informed Emily Dickinson that he could not publish her poems because they failed to rhyme.

Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team at the start of his sophomore year.   


Contributed by:  Dean Lindsay, Award Winning Speaker and Author of The Progress Challenge & Co-Author of Stepping Stones to Success