Solid, proactive folks share they have “no time” to get it all done, and have too many demands placed on them.  

“There never seems to be enough time to do the things you want to do once you find them.”

-- Jim Croce

Our ideal “stress-free,” “healthy,” or “right” work-life balance shifts on a daily basis, and certainly over time. The right balance for us tomorrow will probably be different from what it is for us today. 

If we want to be working and winning, which includes arriving at that well-worn expression “Healthy Balance,” we must begin to internalize our motives, the reasons for our actions.  Truly understanding and digging into why we’re choosing to do the things we’re doing is vital if we’re going to reach true balance. Managing our lives and making changes when we feel motivated to do so, as we set goals for ourselves, could make us the leader towards our own destiny.

As humans, we have this dangerous and unavailing habit of always looking at the greener grass on the other side of the fence, unaware that it’s really all about our priorities and how we roll out our choices, thoughts, and actions. 

Working and winning is a unique and personal jigsaw puzzle, and only we can put the pieces together.  This puzzle is made up of ourselves, our family, our friends, our work, our career, our interests and hobbies, and, in all of the above, our ideals and aspirations.  

it is not healthy, productive, or even logical.  All we end up doing is comparing our insides with others’ outsides.  We compare the way we feel about our situation as it is today (insides) to the way other people seem to live: career, house, car, family, network – (all “outsides”).  This is not fair to either party.  We do not know what is going on in the other person’s life or head.  As my good friend and fellow author Carl Youngberg would say, “Stop measuring yourself with someone else’s yardstick.”

 It’s like that commercial where the guy has the big house, pool, manicured lawn – the perfect life.  He turns to the camera while cruising around his big front yard on his big riding lawn mower and says sadly, “I am in debt up to my eyeballs.”

Humans love to compete: richer, better-looking, wiser, best-behaved kids, happiest pets, who gets the latest BlackBerry earliest, who understands text-messaging lingo the best.  IMHO*, most of this competition is just wasted effort (LOL).  Working and winning is a contest with one player – ourselves.  The only person we are truly competing against is our current self. 

“Winning isn’t getting ahead of others.   It’s getting ahead of yourself.”    

--Roger Staubach


Contributed by:  Dean Lindsay, Award Winning Speaker and Author of The Progress Challenge & Co-Author of Stepping Stones to Success   

Dean Lindsay, Sales and Leadership Speaker