Sure, it is natural to compete. None of us wants to look or feel like we’re lagging behind. So, if we must compete, let’s have our contest be about who smiles (with reason) the most, or who is reaching his or her goals and progressing without stressing and staying motivated. But regardless of their relative merit, and exempting many sports endeavors, most competition appears to be, in essence, foolish, insignificant, absurd, and misguided.
Often, when we are out of balance, it is because we’re not listening to ourselves. Instead, we’re listening to all these other people and their pronouncements about what balance should look like. I can’t tell you what healthy balance should look like, but I can tell you what it should feel like. It should feel like your own nice unique blend of pleasure, peace of mind, profit, pain avoidance, prestige, and power.
One of the main things that gets us out of balance is having too much stuff. And I don’t mean this just in a physical sense; I also mean in our minds and in our pursuits. It is easy to get scattered, and our world is certainly not trying to help us simplify. For one thing, the sheer volume of information available to us is increasing exponentially. In the 1,500 years between Christ and da Vinci, we had one doubling. Now information doubles every eighteen months.
We must decide and focus on what “in-put” we will put in and act upon – what is most important to us and to the well-being of the people we care about. If we are going to work and win in this world of change, it is vital that we invest the bulk of our time and energy in the activities and goals that offer the highest return on the investment for our lives.
We CANNOT do IT ALL or have IT ALL. We can’t know everything there is to know or do everything there is to do. We can’t watch every movie, eat at every restaurant, travel to every country, or own every electronic gadget. There is no way we can do and have it all. We have to make choices and stay on the path of reaching our goals and being motivated to lead the way for ourselves to succeed.
“Most people struggle with life balance simply because they haven't paid the price
to decide what is really important to them.” --- Stephen Covey
We’ve all heard the saying, “the trappings of success.” How about the trappings of excess? Our society wants us to want, and needs us to need stuff, but there is a good chance that we don’t need or even want a lot of what we already have. Time for a garage sale?
Each of us has a mind; we just have to make it up. To progress in the balancing of our lives, we’ve got to take the hard, uncompromising look inside ourselves to decide what progress means to us. We can have and do everything we want if we truly internalize why we want it and make some changes along the way.
Contributed by: Dean Lindsay, Award Winning Speaker and Author of The Progress Challenge & Co-Author of Stepping Stones to Success