We are not perfect – and wouldn’t we feel out of place if we were? Many of us harbor perfectionist standards for ourselves (as well as for others) that are simply unhealthy and unrealistic. Not good.
“Never discourage anyone...who continually makes progress, no matter how slow.”
-- Plato (That “anyone” includes you!)
When we focus on beating ourselves up, we are tearing down our level of resolve and persistence. Believe me, there are plenty of people out there who are only too willing to do that for us. Cut yourself (and others) some slack. We do not have to be perfect to Be Progress.
Stop Blaming Others and Holding on to the Past.
It is natural to have difficulty accepting and adjusting to change and uncertainty, especially changes we didn't initiate or think we wanted. Put issues into perspective by focusing on the big picture. Don’t focus on the injustice. Focus on your next proactive step.
If we are not careful, we can waste an enormous amount of quality time and energy dwelling on, resenting, and second-guessing the actions of others. This type of thinking can stifle our creativity and our imagination. We get stuck. It is weird to consider, but we can even get comfortable being stuck, because shifting our thoughts is often perceived as being more painful.
It helps to begin recognizing the events that don’t truly have much effect on our lives and letting them go without getting down on ourselves about letting them go. I am not saying that events don’t have consequences, but letting stress and self-doubt impede our progress does not have to be one of them. Things have changed before. Things have progressed before. The only past we should hold onto are the reminders of past progress.
Where is your next step forward?
Believe you should take it and take it. Don’t doubt yourself. Make something good happen.
It doesn’t matter how skilled we are or how determined we say we are if procrastination keeps us from getting rolling.
Here are the ABC’s of why we procrastinate.
A. We are not truly 100% committed.
We really can’t say, “I am committed; I just haven’t done anything yet.” When we’re truly committed – WE ACT.
B. We fear failure.
Ralph Waldo Emerson knew the way around this universal challenge, but most of all he knew the way through it: “Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain.” Action helps remove fear and doubt.
C. We don't know enough to do the task.
If we don’t know how to do something, we have to find out. There are countless ways (books, programs, co-workers, clergy, the Internet) to find reliable info on solid next steps.
Stop Letting Feelings of the Moment get in the Way.
There is often a big gap between what we want to do and what we feel like doing. What we want to do is based on anticipated consequences and educated guesses as to what feelings will be reached. What we feel like doing is based on how we feel at the moment (tricky). Here is the real kicker: We work best when these are aligned.
Contributed by: Dean Lindsay, Award Winning Speaker and Author of The Progress Challenge & Co-Author of Stepping Stones to Success